Mary Goodman 

deep down inside we know if he's real, player, or even a liar, women shouldn't be sleeping with these types to begin with, love can flourish before the physical contact, and trust needs to be established before hand no trust well absolutely no physical touchโ˜‘๏ธ

K Deloris 

you should leave a guy like that alone๐Ÿƒโ€โ™€๏ธ

Magz Free 

Damn his pronunciation of mortgage we so distracting that I had to rewatch the video to concentrate on his message! Lol

S Tulip 


Carmen Hayes 


Lisa Joseph 

Yaaaaaaaaaaaaas! Giggling........ and they wonder why we luv us some Mr. Jaxn! I feel You alllll the way around this subject! ๐Ÿ˜‰

Karissa Key 

I love the mortgage comparison

Anlo dvh 

I just dumped

somebody on the second date for repeating that he didnt want labels. He was about to mess me up . No freakin way! Guys are honest we just need to listen and hang on to our investment until we are sure he aint playin . No matter how eligible or into you he may seem at the time . I learned this the hard way ๐Ÿคช

Telepathic Abilities 

Manipulation thats y i did it


Your analogy is trash by the way. A mortgage is a contract which ensures payment or interest in the property, a relationship title guarantees nothing. Marriage has guarantees in some places but is extremely lopsided in the favor of women and you have to invite a 3rd party (the state) into your relationship. You're right that some men don't want title cause they aren't serious, but some really just don't see the point in it. Women use these titles as a way to validate themselves and their relationships which to me is ass backwards because you should only judge it by how the man treats you and how strong the bond actually is.


A title means nothing, there are plenty of husbands and wives living foul and people with no title who are in great relationships. Measure your relationship on things that matter, getting hung up on titles is foolishness.


Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Tara Buck 

You are wise beyond your years


I think what is even worse is that they say they are "in a relationship" with you, but still act like they are single... that can really do your head in. It is the most insidious, disrespectful way of treating a woman who is keen on building her future with that man.

RaRa Rodrigo 

Woman like to live in the moment then get mad at a man bc she allowed his awful behavior.

Meiceyโ€™s MOB 

Say it louddeerrrrrr Derrick ๐Ÿ—ฃ๐Ÿ—ฃ๐Ÿ—ฃ๐Ÿ—ฃ๐Ÿ—ฃ

Pam's favorites 

Where can I get some "team Jaxn" gear, because once again, you've hit it out the park!

Seriously, I need a web link.

Tasha Davis 

I soooo agree with all u just said... Dam I'm in that situation rite now ! ....


That was such a good analogy. ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿฝ

Tierra Brown 

Lol the way he says mortgage is funny.

Max C 

OMG YES!!!!!


He told me to just breathe... i said kiss my ass! Not out any booty, & hearts almost grateful. Thanks D.

calvin ferguson 

I would push the keys up their hearts take it out and then bleach it

Princess Montano 

they aint man....they r lil kids ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

Michele T 

Totally agree

Shine - Shekinah Gloria 

Thank you.

Esoteric Junky 

The funny thing is I don't like to jump into relationships and when I try to keep them at arm's distance that's when they want me the most...lol. ladies stay in your power... flip the script and see what happens

Queen of the South 

Avoiding responsibility.....which should come with the title!! Call him an EX....and see what happens.

Lissette Martinez 

Words of wisdom..love it thanks for sharing this Derrick

Rachel J 

One cannot retrieve the time that she invested - or worse, wasted - in a relationship with someone. It's better get the title or the "deed" and even then, make sure he wants to put a title on the relationship MORE than you want it. Otherwise, it's meaningless!

Toni Franklin 

Or when u 'bae or baby' but not girlfriend, fiancee, or wife..and u ask him which one..if u gotta ask it's a hell no..next case..๐Ÿ‘Š

Lisa Davis 

My Phone Must Be Outdated This Is The 1st Time Iโ€™ve Seen Your Blog #To Disagree Is To Agree Intellectual Food For Thought

Lisa Davis 

#For Finalizing What Is Evident To Everybody But Him=No Longer A Player But In A Relationship Title Scares The Hell Out Of So Called Pimps

MK11 IsComing 

I fell for this bullshit. Luckily I smartened up and kicked the bitch outta my life....never again!

Beverlee339 Peay 

Sooooo many women are falling for these lies from men. These men are laughing all the way to the bank on us women. That's why all the good men are scarce. Women are giving up all the milk, and the men will not buy the cow. Im turning down all these men who don't want nothing but benefits everyday, and they just walk away cause they know their are other women who will give up everything they want in a heartbeat. We women need to do better.


Thank you.

A.R.P. -T. 


Cocoa Renay 

You're absolutely right!!

Hartmanโ€™ s Productie 

thank you..

Shandler H. 

Just did this after sending him your: Watch "WHAT HE REALLY MEANS BY, โ€œBEST FRIENDS, FIRST.โ€" on YouTube

https://youtu.be/q9N-iKRZk10: to watch. Haven't heard from him again. Was it something you said. ๐Ÿค”

Patience Curtis 

He means mortgage. Not mortage. The 'T' is silent.๐Ÿ˜‰

Alyssa B 

More gaje=mortgage.. your too smart to not pronounce it properly..

It's Never Personal 

โ€œMort-tageโ€ honey itโ€™s mort-gage. Love your work though! โค๏ธ

Josie F 


Catherine Malone 

Real talk

Shemeka Frazier 

Yes, that is the absolute truth! If a man canโ€™t present you to the world by saying what you mean to him and that you two are exclusive by giving it a label then you mean nothing and youโ€™re up for grabs.


Because men lie and my friends and I can't actually find a man who wants a title and a real relationship to save our lives, unless he is totally psycho or abusive. Been searching and searching. They play games and do not want commitment so I stay single for years.

Amber U 

Needed this too!

Kim Pope 

All i gotta add is this, cause this is the PERFECT female rebuttal https://youtu.be/_aSPYcjspgk

Sassy Sasser 

I just LOVE LOVE LOVE the way you explain things with your examples GREAT perspective!